Its all in the shoes
Hi guys and Gals before I continue with my blog just want to straighten one thing up, I know the story about a mans Shoe size (I hope you know it too) as you will not know what the heck I am talking about. This Blog is not about that.
We single women are really judgmental and we need to be. I have a few key things men do on first dates that are reliable indicators of their (lack of) fitness to be the one. The one most often overlooked by men is what to wear; specifically shoes.
I judge a guy’s shoes on a first date, I asked some of my lady friends to imagine casual lunch dates with different guys wearing different shoes and to rate what each shoe type says about the guy wearing them..
WEAR SHOES THAT COVER YOUR FEET.
Mostly my friends hated every single sandal Crocs, Birkenstocks, flip-flops, it didn’t matter. This shows I have no sense of style, I’m not interested in this date, I’m a lazy loser. Unless your first date is at a hacky sack tournament or a nudist colony, women do not want to see your toes; they want your foot properly covered in a proper shoe.
WEAR NORMAL SHOES, NOT BOOTS.
Only one of my friends did not mind a boot (the Red Wing Iron Ranger, $300). the Timberlands, and the cowboy boots. You might think the boots are making you look manly, confident, protective and sexy, but most women don’t see them that way.
Of course, there are exceptions to this rule. There was a statistically significant strain of cowboy lust among my friends for instance. The problem is that you’re unlikely to know that about a woman before the first date. so you’re better off just wearing normal shoes to be on the safe side.
DON’T WEAR ATHLETIC SHOES.
Vans and Converse scored O.K., but they’re more “stylish casual” sneakers impressed if you wear athletic shoes on a date? For those of you who were considering wearing one of these shoes, we know you think they say, I’m strong, fit and sexy. Well, they don’t. You know what does? Your stomach, your jawline and the fit of your shirt over your chest, shoulders and arms.
STYLISH SHOES MAKE YOU LOOK LIKE A MAN.
Most of my friends rated the more stylish, dressy, leather shoes as more manly and masculine, and as making the guy look more sexually experienced, more mature, and better able to protect and defend them physically. In fact, looking nice and put together is the outward expression of inner confidence. And for women, confidence is the manliest of masculine virtues.
Women like leather. I love leather Brogues I also like the smell of Leather ( thats a different story). it is more that leather shoes look nicer, which codes to women that you are at least making an effort. On the first date, that’s all most women are looking for. So just wear the leather, even if your date proves to be a vegan who morally disapproves of slaughtering a defenseless animal, skinning it and wrapping it around your feet, it’s light years better than shoving your grubby bare toes in her face and a bonus your leather may have saved you from a tedious, frigid relationship with a humorless killjoy.
Shoes speak louder than words.
*Ashley always a pleasure xx*