I love everything about seduction. If you rush things, you can miss the best part. Seduction is all about savouring.
This morning I was inspired by a friend of mine who was talking about seduction. I have to say it is interesting that we associate seduction with sex, when in fact, true seduction is the opposite of sex. Sex is when desire is met. Seduction is not about the culmination or gratification of desire, it is about the thrill of the desire itself. It is the game that is played as the desire comes closer, and closer, and closer, and being able to maintain that tension of wanting
Seduction is the first cousin of Anticipation, and it is something that we enjoy on many levels.
For most of us, the bigger the sexy occasions are in our lives the less frequently they occur. Living a happy, life means extending the pleasure and we can do that with learning how to enjoy and practice seduction and anticipation maybe a bit of Tantric.
There is so much sexy in waiting. Do you want to know one of the most seductive things in the entire world? The ability to say “NO”. No can be a very sexy word. We all know that setting boundaries and saying no to certain situations is important and sometimes essential. But have you ever thought about “no” as being sexy? How does it feel to hold the power and value yourself? How does it feel to withhold something that someone else wants? It’s an interesting experience. Try it just to feel it even if you want to say “Yes”.
The key to seduction is to slow things down. How slowly does that fabulous burlesque dancer take off her gloves? She takes her time with every finger! I tend to think that things are not moving fast enough in my life. I want things now. But when I turn my thoughts to how I can seduce myself with ideas or possibilities everything changes shape.
If I slow things down, I am able to notice that if I am not moving towards something that I thought that I wanted in my life then perhaps I am not truly seduced by it. Try looking at things through the lens of seduction. What is seducing you? And how can you slow down every meal in your life so that you can anticipate every delicious encounter, whether it is a meal or giving your lover pleasure. Can you make him/her whimper with desire? Can you move that slowly.
Ashley Why flirt when I can seduce xx